Our beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy like “Under all that we think, lives all we believe, like the ultimate veil of our spirits.” The challenge with all these beliefs is that they become limitations for future decisions about who you are and what you are and what you are capable of. We need to remember that most of our beliefs are generalizations about our past, based on our interpretations of painful and pleasurable experiences.
The challenge is threefold:
- Most of us do not consciously decide what we are going to believe.
- Often our beliefs are based on the misinterpretation of past experiences.
- Once we adopt a belief, we forget it’s merely an interpretation.
We begin to treat our beliefs as if they are realities as if they are gospel. We rarely, if ever, question our long-held beliefs, if you ever wonder why people do what they do again, you need to remember that human beings are not random creatures: all our actions are the results of our beliefs. Whatever we do, it is out of our conscious or unconscious beliefs about what will lead to pleasure or away from pain. If you want to create long term and consistent changes in your behaviors, you must change the beliefs that are holding you back.
What is a belief, anyway? Often in our life, we talk about things without having a clear idea of what they are. Most people treat a belief as if it’s a thing when all it is a feeling of certainty about something. If you say believe that you’re intelligent, all you are saying to tap into resources that allow you to produce intelligent results. We all have the answers inside of us for virtually anything or at least we have access to the answers we need through others. But often our lack of belief, our lack of certainty, causes us not to be able to use the capacity that resides within us.
Three specific patterns of beliefs cause us to feel helpless and can destroy virtually every aspect of our lives. He calls these three categories permanence, pervasiveness, and personal. Many of our country’s greatest achievers have succeeded despite running into huge problems and barriers. The difference between these and those who give up revolves around their beliefs about the permanence, or lack thereof, of their problems. Achievers rarely, if ever, see a problem permanent, while those who fail to see even the smallest problem as permanent. No matter what happens in your life, you’ve got to be able to believe, “This, too, shall pass,” and that if you keep persisting, you’ll find a way.
The second difference between winners and losers, those who are optimistic and those who are pessimistic, is their beliefs about the pervasiveness of problems. An achiever never sees a problem as being pervasive, that’s it, the one problem controls their whole life. They always see it as,” well, it’s just a little challenge with my eating pattern.” They don’t see it as, “I’m the problem. Because I overeat, my whole life is destroyed.” Conversely, those who are pessimistic__ those who have learned helplessness__ have developed a belief that because they screwed up in one area, they are a screw-up! They believe that because they have financial challenges, their whole life is destroyed: their kids won’t be taken care of, their spouse will leave them, and so on. Pretty soon they generalize that things are out of control and feel completely helpless. Imagine the impact of permanence and pervasiveness together! The solution to both permanence and pervasiveness is to something you can take control of in your life and begin to act in that direction. As you do this, some of these limiting beliefs will disappear.
The final category of belief, which is called personal, I prefer to as the problem is very personal. If we don’t see failure as a challenge to modify our approach, but rather as a problem with ourselves, as a personality defect, we will immediately feel overwhelmed. After all, how do change your entire life? Isn’t that more difficult than just changing your actions in a particular area? Be wary of adopting the belief of the problem is personal. How inspired can you get by beating yourself up?
Holding these limiting beliefs is equivalent to systematically ingesting minute doses of arsenic that, over time, build up to a fatal dose. While we don’t die immediately, we start dying emotionally the moment we partake of them. So, we must avoid them at all costs. Remember, if you believe something, your brain operates an automatic pilot, filtering any input from the environment and searching for references to validate your belief, regardless of what it is.
“It is the mind that maketh good of ill, that maketh wretch or happy, rich or poor.”
All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. So how do we change? The most effective way is to get your brain to associate pain with the old belief. You must feel deep in your gut that not only has this belief cost you pain in the past, but it is costing you in the present and, ultimately, can only bring you pain in the future. Then you must associate the tremendous pleasure with the idea of adopting a new, empowering belief. This is the basic pattern that we will review again and again in creating changes in our lives. Remember we can never forget that everything we do, we do either out of our need to avoid pain or our desire to gain pleasure, and if we associate enough pain with anything, we will change. The only reason we have to believe about something is that we have linked massive pain do not believe or massive pleasure to keeping alive.
Secondly, create doubt. If you are honest with yourself, aren’t there some beliefs that you need to defend heart and soul years ago that you’d be most embarrassed to admit today? What happened? Something caused you to doubt maybe a new experience, maybe a counter example to your past belief. We get new experiences that cause us to question, interrupted our patterns of certainty, and began to shake our reference legs. Navigate to expand our life sing is to model the lives of those people who are already succeeding ‘s powerful ‘s fun and these people are available all around you here’s just a metal up asking questions what do you believe makes you different what are the beliefs you have that separates you from others . The models that you need are surrounding you every single day. “We are what we think all that we are arises with our thoughts with our thoughts we make our world.” Small improvements are believable and therefore achievable we have discovered so much about beliefs but in order to truly take control of our lives, we have got to know what beliefs we are already using to guide us.
There are two types of beliefs:
- If-then beliefs like, “If I consistently give my all, then I will succeed,” or “if I’m totally passionate with this person, then they’ll leave me.”
- Global beliefs, like beliefs about people__ “People are basically good” or “People are a pain” ___ beliefs about yourself, beliefs about opportunity, beliefs about time beliefs about scarcity and abundance.